Multiple trans / LGBT children in the same house.
This is my situation.
How it started
In March of 2013, I pulled my ex-wife aside and tried to be honest with her.
I was working 96+ hours a week. I was isolated. We were barely intimate. We were living in the same house, but it felt like we were just roommates.
I told her something had to change or we needed to get divorced. I also admitted that I was turning to porn more and more, and that it was getting into my head and hurting me psychologically. I was carrying the financial load, taking care of my own needs, and feeling completely alone.
Two months later, everything exploded.
The accident and the public humiliation
On May 3rd, 2013, a drunk driver going the wrong way on the freeway near Ashland, Oregon, hit my car head-on. He killed himself. He almost killed me.
https://kval.com/news/local/man-dies-in-crash-driving-the-wrong-way-on-i-5-near-state-border
I survived, but with 40+ broken bones and multiple surgeries. I was in a wheelchair, recovering at her mother’s house, because that is where she insisted we go.
Two weeks after the accident, in the middle of the living room, in front of my kids and in-laws, she singled me out and started screaming at me about the porn issue. Top of her lungs. No privacy. No compassion. Just rage.
Then she went outside and continued yelling up and down the street, while I sat there in a wheelchair, unable to even get up and try to calm her down or talk it through.
That moment set the tone for the next several years.
Seven years of betrayal
The next 7 to 8 years were a drip feed of betrayal.
She would:
- Talk behind my back to our friends and business partners
- Spread exaggerated or fabricated rumors
- Flirt with a guy we had met in Ireland, talking about reuniting with him
I filed for divorce twice and took it back twice. I tried to keep the family together. I tried to make it work.
By 2020, I was done. It was clear our values had split in a big way, especially socially and politically. She had surrounded herself with LGBT friends and activists. We were not on the same page anymore, and it was obvious she wanted a different life.
I finally filed for divorce a third time and decided I would not undo it.
I did not think it was good for the kids to grow up watching constant conflict. I thought ending it cleanly might spare them more damage.
The Ireland mess
That Irish guy she wanted to rendezvous with was still in the picture. I actually told her: ask him to marry you so we can move the whole family to Ireland. She had already been making plans to live with him in some form.
He turned her down and stopped talking to her.
Then she told me to ask his sister.
His sister agreed, but on one condition: that I give her a baby. I asked my ex-wife what she thought about that. Her response was basically:
“If she will help us move to Ireland, sure, give her a baby.”
That was the moment I knew it was really over, even if the paperwork was not final yet. That was about two months before I filed.
Long story short, I went to Ireland, reluctantly followed through, and she got pregnant. As soon as that happened, she backed out of the marriage plan.
Before that, I had tried to get her to go on birth control. She refused. I scheduled a vasectomy. When I told her about the appointment, she asked me not to go through with it, said she still wanted to marry me and still wanted a child with me.
So I cancelled the appointment. I still have the email to my doctor. More on that issue: www.kaceythompson.org
Meanwhile, back in the States, my ex-wife met a guy online, got engaged within a month, and was married to him within three months of meeting him.
The kids start choosing sides
When I got home from Ireland, my kids picked me up from the airport. On the ride home, they told me:
“It really seems like mom wants us to choose sides against you. She says really horrible things about you.”
Two months later, we were all in therapy together, and they told the therapist the same thing.
My DVR at home recorded that original conversation with the kids. I mention this because my older child, who is now dealing with gender dysphoria, later denied ever saying those things. That was one of the early signs of parental alienation.
There were others:
- For years, my ex-wife had threatened that if I ever divorced her, she would turn the kids against me. That is also recorded on my DVR.
- The first Christmas after the divorce, I tried to call the kids. She kept hanging up on me while I could hear my kids crying in the background, wanting to talk to their dad.
- I sent presents and even money so she could buy them gifts. She refused. Eventually, my friend Ralph physically delivered the gifts so the kids would actually receive them.
This was not a one-off moment. It became a pattern.
The new “woman” in the house and sudden trans identification
It kept escalating.
In a short time, the new husband was wearing fake breasts, wearing dresses, and presenting himself as a woman.
Shortly after that, my second oldest child decided she was trans.
That is where the title of this post comes from. Multiple trans / LGBT identities under one roof, my kids caught in the middle, and me watching much of it from the outside while being painted as the villain.
Where things stand now
Fast forward to now.
One of my daughters is on hormone replacement therapy and is transitioning to become a boy. She chose a new name. Out of respect, when I got a tattoo of my kids’ names on my arm, I had her new name tattooed too.
I do try to respect her identity in day-to-day life. I love her.
But I also believe that XX can never actually become XY, and that matters to me. That is where I draw the line. I cannot lie about basic biology, even to make people more comfortable.
I am deeply concerned about the long-term health effects of hormone treatments on a child, the permanence of these choices, and the social pressure around all of this. I believe a lot of it is driven by cultural fads and ideological capture, not by careful, long-term thinking about what is best for a kid’s future.
So I raised concerns with my ex-wife.
Below is the unedited back-and-forth between us from early December 2025. Names are redacted. This is exactly how it was written.
This is the back and forth between my ex-wife and myself:
(me) Though, even despite the fact that I was outspoken and sacrificed friends and other things for decades to support gay marriage. Like Elon Musk and other liberals (yes he donated to and voted for Hillary in 2016) I am starting to see the slippery slope And more now than ever inam starting to see the weakness and trouble with this game of virtue signaling I've never cared what people think of me. I like who I am. But I supported gay marriage. Because I support liberty But when tolerance and affirmation turns into thousands of mutilated children and men in women's locker rooms taking women's trophies and being placed in women's prisons. I can see how tolerance and affirmation CAN in some cases be a bad thing And I am learning the errors of my ways
12/02/2025
.
12/04/2025 (me)
And further more (name redacted) ***** I think you are harming the children by affirming medically harmful behavior, and ideologies fueled by cultural fads that are passing and sharply shrinking away It's time to look at their future and not just what a CHILD wants for themselves right now Part of being a parent is saying NO https://rumble.com/v72kv98-how-the-transgender-lobby-destroys-family-relationships.html
12/04/2025 (me)
You use to be so logical Since the porn fight that we had for so long, you got illogical and spiteful And the thing I regret most is hurting our children I miss you as a friend And for many years you were an amazing wife But what is left now is looking out for the well being of our children
12/05/2025 (my exwife)
I have nothing to say to you. You don't listen anyway. We have already discussed all of this at length. You are 100% welcome to stop badgering me. Thnx
12:58 AM (my)
My having a serious concern about our daughters serious health risks by being on hormones that will permanently effect her future in a negative way is not my badgering you (name redacted) ***** I have asked to speak with her therapist and you have refused to disclose that information So the person that I need to speak to, is you Kim I'd be happy to never have to be reminded of the 7 years of betrayal and backstabbing and the broken heart I had to endure after you publicly ridiculed me in front of my children about a very private and adult topic, by never having to speak to you again either But I do worry about my daughter dealing with a mental illness called gender dysphoria, and then not getting properly treated, but rather getting affirmed I to a life altering issue that can not be later reversed So if you would rather just allow me to speak with her therapist. As her father I should be allowed to. I would MUCH rather do that
1:05 AM (me)
I had hoped after the divorce, that you would be entirely happy about allowing as many people as you wanted, to call you "wife" or to be able to make plans with Eden, without my concern or interference, or whatever other sorts of betrayal you wanted to pursue. I didn't think you would hate me or resent me, for parting ways. I thought we were under a very clear direction I never allowed a single person to get intimate or close to me whole we were married. I never planned rendezvous with friends or potential mates, I never allowed anyone to call me husband, and even friends from high school who were divorced that sent messages inquiring of my marital status, I never gave them the time of day. But it was clear to me that you wanted to pursue other things And I agreed by setting you free There seems no need to be vindictive to me. I did you a solid from what I could tell But fine hate me. Try to destroy me with half truths and fault out lies Fine But there is no need to harm out children by affirming their self destruction Again.. I would be more than happy to talk to her therapist rather than you Please send the contact info And honestly the other kids who were self harming last year should be involved with some sort of therapy as well imho
1:18 AM (me)
Will it hurt me if behind my back you tell our mutual friends exaggerated things about me? I mean, ya, kinda. But since I grew up and became an adult, I stopped dealing with the fiasco of high school popularity contests It hurt me more that you would betray me, than it did that anyone believed you Would it hurt me if you made plans with Eden behind my back? I mean yes, but, I figured it that made you happy.. go for it, you obviously weren't happy with me. I gave you my blessing with Eden and I was happy for you. But the thing that would hurt me the most, is seeing the future the bodies and the happiness of my children destroyed You knew that, and for 8 years, you threatened me with turning them against me It's on record. I'm not making that up Kim. What proof? But with you hurting me that way. You also have VERY much destroyed our children in more ways than just having a relationship with the man in this world who loves them more than his own life. You have hurt them in permanent psychological ways, that they even doubt who they are, after loving me so much during our lives together. It has taught them to hate half of themselves And it's a terrible thing to put on children They will suffer for the rest of their lives over this Not just from bodily changes such as infertility But they will suffer a life long sadness over this all And I beg you to stop this shit
1:21 AM (me)
I'd do anything to try to fix it while it is potentially fixable
1:23 AM (me)
And I can't type well with out my glasses Read between the lines I know you're all about spelling and all that But please. What can be done to mend this?
1:40 AM (me)
And this whole trans thing started cooling off long before Trump was elected This isn't about hatred towards trans because of Trump. Or whatever TDS rhetoric is out there The studies show, this started cooling of significantly in 2022 It is just not a great path to be on There are underlying issues That should be addressed Most of not all trans people are dealing with many serious underlying psychological issues Gender dysphoria is how it manifests in some But clearly the stack of other issues shows up in almost all
3:01 AM (my exwife)
You really need to stop bringing up all your hurt feelings and baggage. No one cares. The ONLY addressable issue at all in all your blathering is the request to speak to James' therapist. That up to James, not me. James has the right to seek their own medical care. I am 100% sure I have said these words to you before. That's why it's badgering.
3:37 AM (my exwife)
What you really need to grasp is the DRAMATIC improvement in James' mental health in the last year and a half. Yes, (name redacted) ***** has gender dismorphia. Yes, they are seeing physicians and therapists. Yes, accepting them how they wish to present has vastly improved their sense of well being.
11:26 PM (me)
And again though, when a CHILD demands something and when a child gets there own way, there is always a large amount of satisfaction from being able to control the narrative. Will it last? Maybe. I hope that she maintains a healthy emotional condition Before all of the alienation Directly after I got back from Ireland and for the 6 months they were with me, she had a good attitude and we had healthy dialog She as well as (name redacted) ***** and (name redacted) ***** both said on more than one occasion that it felt like you wanted them to choose sides and that caused them a great deal of emotional stress From the very moment I landed and even on their therapy session, they noted this as a major stressor for them And hat is why I have not PUSHED to be in their lives. Because that distance that you insist upon, is a you thing, UNTIL they have to choose sides And when they have to choose sides, then it causes them emotional distress So I have sacrificed my own happiness to give them space I hopes that they all find theirs even in this twisted situation I wish it were different and the only reason I mention hurt feelings, is BECAUSE of the way it negatively effects the kids I gave Laken space and allowed her to move on, but when I went silent she would insist on my presence I went back, and it was just turmoil I am not looking forward to being a part of any more turmoil But I do think that the children would benefit from their biological father being in their lives Beyond that. The research shows that the suicidality of trans people does not improve post- transition. And the studies that have long term observation of these situations, show that it is not just gender dysphoria in most of this cases, by in large, it is also issues such as autism, ADHD, schizophrenia, depression, and that once those underlying issues are addressed, the gender dysphoria is also addressed And that is my main concern As for (name redacted) ***** allowing me or not to talk with her therapist? I didn't know that as a minor, that was even optional?
11:29 PM (me)
This is why I walked away (name redacted) ***** https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1GHzDABCU8/ I wanted you to be happy Not for us to be enemies
Spun Web Technology SMART SEO
