Why I made this video, and why I’m writing this post
I’m Ryan “Dickie” Thompson. The Rumble video this post is about is mine.
I recorded it because I got tired of watching people act like parental alienation appears out of thin air the day you file paperwork. In my life, it didn’t. My parental alienation timeline started years before any divorce was final, and I can point to specific moments where the reputation destruction kicked in.
If you’re living something similar, I’m not here to sell you a fantasy. I’m here to give you a framework, so you can document cleanly, speak plainly, and stay sane.
Video link (Rumble):
The core claim in my parental alienation timeline
Here’s the spine of it.
For years before the split, I was told some version of: “If you leave, I’ll turn the kids against you.” When a person says that once, you remember it. When they repeat it over and over, it stops being “emotional talk” and starts looking like intent.
My parental alienation timeline is basically me saying: this did not start in court. It started in the relationship, then it spread into the social circle, then it landed on the kids.
That’s the pattern.
The early years, what I thought marriage was supposed to be
I was married 18 years. I expected it to last. No cheating, no secret second life, just honesty and a long haul commitment.
I’m not writing this to pretend I’m flawless. I’m writing it because a lot of guys get baited into defending their whole personality, when the real fight is about the kids and access.
So yes, I had my mess. I had my blind spots. I also showed up, worked, built, provided, and I was present.
Then the mask came off. That’s how it felt.
The intimacy breakdown, and the moment it became a weapon
In the video I talk about a stretch where we were distant, emotionally and physically. Weeks went by with basically nothing. Not just sex. Even basic closeness, heart-to-heart stuff.
I told my wife I’d turned to porn at times because I felt isolated. I wasn’t proud of it, and I didn’t marry to live like that. I also was not out cheating. I was trying to find relief without detonating the family.
And that’s where the parental alienation timeline starts to show its first shape: a private confession becomes a public label.
Suddenly I’m not “a husband who’s struggling,” I’m “a porn addict.” That’s the kind of sticky story that spreads fast, because it’s easy for other people to repeat.
Reputation destruction is not a theory, it’s a tactic
I noticed something that felt unreal at first.
We’d meet people. We’d make friends. And then, almost on schedule, those friends would flip on me. Condemnations. Side-eyes. Moral lectures. The tone changes like somebody handed them a script.
Later, I found messages that made it look like I was being framed to others in a way that did not match reality. If you’ve been there, you know what I mean.
Reputation destruction matters in a parental alienation timeline because it builds the “permission structure.” Once your circle thinks you’re dangerous or disgusting, it becomes easier to justify gatekeeping the kids from you.
What parental alienation means, and why I keep it evidence-based
People fight about the term “parental alienation,” and I get why. Sometimes it’s real manipulation. Sometimes it’s used to dismiss real abuse. Sometimes it’s both, because families are messy and courts are worse.
There are medical-legal reviews that describe parental alienation as a pattern where one parent influences a child to reject the other parent without legitimate justification, especially in high-conflict situations. PMC
That same literature also stresses the difference between alienation and estrangement (a child pulling away due to actual harm). PMC
So here’s how I treat it in my parental alienation timeline: I log behaviors and events first. I don’t just slap a label on feelings. Dates, actions, consequences. That’s what survives scrutiny.
My timeline markers, the ones I can point to
I’m not going to rewrite the whole transcript word-for-word. That’s not useful, and it turns into a wall of pain nobody can navigate.
But I can lay out the markers I gave in the video, because the structure is the point.
Marker 1: March 2013, intimacy confrontation becomes a trigger
That’s when I said the “porn because we’re disconnected” confession became an explosion instead of a conversation.
Marker 2: May 2013, after my accident, the humiliation moment
I describe being in a wheelchair, recovering, and getting attacked publicly, in front of family and the kids. That’s when I felt the relationship shift from partner to enemy.
Marker 3: The social isolation phase
Friends begin treating me like the villain, and I find what looks like behind-the-scenes framing.
Marker 4: Threats tied to leaving
In the video, I describe repeated threats: turn the kids against me, self-harm threats, and other emotional leverage.
Marker 5: Holidays and contact squeeze
Christmas becomes a pressure point. Gifts. Money. Access. Everything gets politicized.
Marker 6: Kids verbalize “choose sides”
When kids say they feel like they have to pick a team, that’s not normal co-parenting. That’s a red flag you log, calmly, with details.
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Why the timeline beats the rant, every time
Here’s the brutal truth: the system is built to ignore men who look unstable.
You can be right, and if you look unhinged, you still lose.
A parental alienation timeline forces discipline. It makes you log:
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date and time
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what happened
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who was present
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what proof exists (texts, call logs, receipts, school notes, therapy summaries)
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what you did next
That is not just “for court.” It’s for your own mind. It keeps you from spiraling, because you’re dealing with reality, not a fog of rage.
Recording and documentation, do it legally
In the video I mention dash cams and other recordings. I’m not telling you to go break laws.
Recording rules vary by jurisdiction. If you’re documenting, document in ways your attorney can actually use. The goal is admissible, not dramatic.
And a note that should be common sense but isn’t: do not provoke conflict so you can “capture content.” Your kids are not extras in a documentary. Protect them first.
About the health claims I made in the video
I said some things about male sexual release and health. Let me tighten that up here, like an adult.
There are observational studies suggesting higher ejaculation frequency is associated with a lower risk of prostate cancer in some populations. PubMed+1
That is not a guarantee, and it’s not a license to turn intimacy into a courtroom argument. It also is not medical advice. If you’re worried about prostate health, talk to a clinician.
I’m leaving this in the post because honesty matters, and because it shows how everyday human needs can get weaponized when a marriage turns hostile.
The part of my story I’m not repeating word-for-word
In the transcript, there’s profanity and some ugly language around hot-button issues. I said some of it in anger. I’m not proud of that, and I’m not repeating slurs or degrading labels here.
Here’s why: it doesn’t help my kids. It doesn’t help your case. It doesn’t help the reader.
If you’re in a custody fight, you can believe whatever you believe, but you still need to speak like someone a judge would trust with a child’s future.
That’s not “being fake.” That’s being strategic.
Family court reality, without the made-up stats
You’ll hear people toss out claims like “70% of cases go to the mother.” Sometimes it feels like that. The lived experience is real.
But the cleanest way to talk about this publicly is with living arrangement data and custody trend research, not viral numbers.
For example, national indicators show that in 2022, 22% of children lived with their mother only, while 5% lived with their father only. childstats.gov
Also, research on shared physical custody shows it has increased over time in the U.S., more than doubling from earlier cohorts into 2010–2014 in one demographic study. Demographic Research
Both things can be true: moms are more often the primary residential parent, and shared custody has grown.
My point stays the same: the system incentivizes conflict and rewards whoever controls the narrative first. That’s why your parental alienation timeline matters.
12 warning signs to log in your parental alienation timeline
This is the section I want you to steal.
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Calls blocked, unanswered, or “they don’t want to talk” with no facilitation
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Gifts returned, withheld, or never delivered
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The other parent insists on being present for every call
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Kids start using adult phrases that don’t sound like them
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You’re blamed for “making mom sad” or “ruining the family”
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Your parenting history gets rewritten overnight
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Teachers, coaches, pastors suddenly get a one-sided “briefing”
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Friends flip on you fast, like a coordinated campaign
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Kids say they feel forced to pick sides
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Your boundaries trigger legal threats instantly
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Minor disagreements become “safety issues”
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You’re offered access only if you confess to a script you don’t believe
Log each one with dates, and keep it boring. Boring is credible.
[Image: A plain spreadsheet labeled “Parental Alienation Timeline” with columns for date, event, proof | ALT: parental alienation timeline spreadsheet format for custody documentation]
The practical plan, what I’d do again, starting today
If I could go back and coach my past self, I’d say this.
Step 1: Stop debating the smear
You cannot reason someone out of a story they’re using as a weapon.
Correct the record once, calmly, with proof. Then stop feeding it.
Step 2: Switch to written communication
Text, email, parenting apps if possible. Not because you’re trying to “catch” somebody, but because your memory will fail under stress.
Step 3: Make access requests clean and consistent
“Can I call at 7 pm?”
“I’m available Saturday 10 to 2.”
No paragraphs. No accusations. No therapy sessions in the chat.
Step 4: Document refusals the same way you document successes
A parental alienation timeline is not just the horror show. It’s also your steady behavior. Show your pattern of stability.
Step 5: Protect the kids from the war
This is hard, because you’re bleeding emotionally.
But don’t make your child the messenger. Don’t ask them to spy. Don’t ask them what mom said. Let your love be the constant they can trust.
[Video: Short tutorial on building a custody documentation binder and timeline | Note: Gives a concrete next step after a heavy story]
The poem section in the video, what I meant by it
Near the end of the transcript there’s a repeated poetic segment about “broken fathers” and kids caught in the crossfire. This is a song that I wrote called “The Ballad Of Broken Fathers”
I’m not going to reprint that whole thing here. Two reasons: one, it’s a lot. Two, it turns this post into a gut-punch loop instead of a tool.
What I meant was simple: parental alienation is not just an attack on the targeted parent, it’s an attack on the child’s right to love both parents.
Even the clinical literature that discusses parental alienation focuses heavily on the potential harm to children when they’re pressured into rejecting a parent. PMC
That’s the point. Not my pride. Not my ego. The kids.
What I want lawmakers and normal people to understand
I said in the video this is a call to people with influence.
Here’s the clean version: kids do better when both fit parents can be present, and the state should not be in the business of rewarding sabotage.
If you want fewer broken families, you don’t get there by funding more bureaucracy. You get there by discouraging gatekeeping, punishing interference, and making shared parenting the default when it’s safe.
I’m liberty-minded, so I’ll say it bluntly: centralized systems do not “solve” family conflict. They monetize it.
If this post hits close to home
If you’re reading this because you’re in it right now, I’m sorry. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
But you still have a job to do.
Build your parental alienation timeline. Keep your communication clean. Show up. Stay predictable. Love your kids without conditions.
You don’t win by being louder. You win by being steadier.
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Parental Alienation Timeline: What Started Years Before the Split (Video)|https://rumble.com/v73oy0w-parental-alienation-timeline-what-started-years-before-the-split.html
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Family Structure and Children's Living Arrangements (America's Children, Key Indicators)|https://www.childstats.gov/americaschildren23/family1.asp
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Medical–Legal and Psychosocial Considerations on Parental Alienation as a Form of Child Abuse: A Brief Review|https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9223241/
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Increases in shared custody after divorce in the United States (Demographic Research)|https://www.demographic-research.org/articles/volume/46/38
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Ejaculation frequency and prostate cancer (Harvard Health Publishing)|https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/ejaculation_frequency_and_prostate_cancer
- Ejaculation Frequency and Risk of Prostate Cancer (Rider et al., 2016, PubMed)|https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27033442/
- The Kacey Project, soon to become “The Kacey Foundation”; https://kaceythompson.org
New Year, new perspective. I just wanted to get this off my chest, after years of hearing the fake story as told by the other party.
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