Would You Rather Have a Dead Son or a Live Daughter?
A pediatrician actually said that.
In front of a father.
In front of his son.
That line is from a new documentary called Identity Crisis, and you can watch the segment I am talking about here:
If you want to understand how far the machine will go to break parents and fast-track kids into a political project, this story lays it bare.
Toxic Empathy: When Feelings Become a Weapon
In the clip, Allie Beth Stuckey talks about “toxic empathy.” Not empathy as in basic human compassion, but empathy so super-charged and one-sided that it steamrolls truth and consequences.
She breaks it down in simple terms. When your emotions run the show, you can end up:
- Affirming sin
- Validating lies
- Supporting destructive policies
We have all seen it.
You feel bad for the woman in a hard spot, so you treat abortion like a sacrament. You feel bad for the boy who says he was “born in the wrong body,” so you pretend biology is optional and demand that girls share locker rooms with him. You feel bad for a criminal's “rough childhood,” so you ignore the people he keeps hurting.
That is not compassion. That is moral disarmament.
Christians, she reminds us, are not commanded to worship feelings. We are called to love. Real love “rejoices with the truth.” That is straight out of 1 Corinthians 13. Love tells the truth even when it hurts, even when it costs you something, even when people call you a monster for saying it.
And that is exactly where this father, Gareth, finds himself.
A Vulnerable Kid, a Ready-Made Script
Simon was 14. New school, big weight loss, undiagnosed autism, social mess. In other words: prime target.
He sits in sex ed and meets the “gender unicorn,” that cute cartoon that slices kids up into “gender identity,” “gender expression,” “sex assigned at birth,” and so on. Then he joins what he thinks is a Gay-Straight Alliance for support after homophobic bullying.
Instead of basic solidarity and common sense advice, he finds an on-ramp into gender ideology:
- Transgenderism
- Gender dysphoria
- Medical transition
He is a lonely teenage boy trying to make sense of his pain. The adults and peers around him give him a single explanation and a single path: you are trans, and if your parents question it, they do not love you.
This is what I mean when I talk about “the lobby.” Not a smoke-filled room with a single villain, but a whole network of schools, therapists, media, and activists running the same script:
- “You feel different? That means you are trans.”
- “Your parents hesitate? That means they are unsafe.”
- “Doctors disagree? They are bigots.”
Once that narrative locks in, mom and dad are rebranded from protectors to oppressors.
A Dad Walks Into a Doctor's Office
Now zoom in on Gareth.
His son is anxious, depressed, and clearly not okay. So he does what a responsible parent is told to do. He goes to the pediatrician for help.
The doctor talks to the kid alone, comes back, and tells dad:
“Your son says he is a girl inside and you do not affirm this.”
Dad answers with blunt honesty: “Of course I do not. It is absurd.”
This is where any sane medical system would slow down and say: “Okay, we have a distressed teenager. Let us talk about trauma, autism, bullying, family history. Let us get more information before we slap on a label.”
Instead, the pediatrician delivers the script:
“Would you rather have a dead son or a live daughter?”
That is not care. That is not science. That is psychological extortion.
And look at who it targets. Not the hospital. Not the school. Not the social media platforms feeding kids this stuff 24/7. It lands squarely on the back of the parent who still remembers that reality is a thing.
“The hate of your child is a heavy burden to bear,” Gareth says in the documentary. “Sometimes you have to.”
Read that again. This man was willing to carry his own son's hatred so that his son might have a future.
You tell me who really loved that boy.
The Turning Point Nobody in the System Wanted
So what actually changed Simon's mind?
It was not a gender clinic. It was not a TED talk about “living your truth.” It was facing the real wound.
In college, he joins a sexual assault survivor group. For the first time, he processes how an older boy assaulted him on a school trip when he was 14. He realizes he was not “born in the wrong body.” He was running from being a young man at all, because manhood had become tied in his mind to hurt and danger.
That is messy. That is hard. That is human.
And there is no quick ticket or prescription for that, which is exactly why the industry would rather slap “transgender” on it and move on. Trauma is slow. Surgery is billable.
When the fog lifts, Simon looks back and sees what his father did. He did not cave. He did not send him to the gender clinic. He refused to cooperate with a lie.
Now the son says he is grateful.
That is the part you will not hear in hospital PR statements or DEI trainings, but it is real.
Love That Looks Like Resistance
Here is the uncomfortable truth: real love sometimes looks like resistance.
Real love:
- Says “no” when the entire culture says “yes”
- Risks being called hateful to protect a child's future
- Refuses to outsource moral responsibility to “experts” with a financial and ideological stake
Gareth puts it as clearly as anyone I have heard:
“Believe in yourself. Believe in your ability to perceive reality. You have to love them not just now, and not just for what they want right now, but for the people they will become in the future. Hold steady to the truth.”
That line should be printed on every consent form and every school counseling packet in the country.
From a liberty perspective, this fight is about more than one family, or one doctrine, or one identity. It is about who owns children.
Do parents own the duty and the right to guide their kids, or does the state, through its schools and medical systems, get to override them by calling disagreement “abuse”?
If a doctor can stand in front of your kid and threaten you with your child's death unless you comply, that is not health care. That is the therapeutic arm of the state flexing its power.
For Parents in the Blast Zone
If you are a parent walking this minefield right now, here is what I would say, as a dad and as a cranky freedom lover who has watched this trend blow holes in families:
- You are not crazy for seeing what you see.
- You are not hateful for questioning a political movement.
- You are not abusive for refusing to put your kid on a medical conveyor belt.
- You might be the only sane adult in your child's life.
Watch the clip:
👉 https://youtu.be/rND1nGXiUY0
Share it with your spouse, your pastor, your skeptical friends. Not because every story is the same, but because this one cracks open the lie that “affirmation” is the only loving response.
Hold the line. Ask hard questions. Refuse emotional blackmail, from doctors, schools, or politicians.
And remember: your job is not to be your child's fan club. Your job is to be their parent. Love them enough to fight for the truth, even when they hate you for it.
Someday, they might thank you for saying “no way in hell.”
Sources
Identity Crisis segment on toxic empathy, Gareth and Simon Price: https://youtu.be/rND1nGXiUY0
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